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June 18, 2005 - Saturday, 1:02 a.m. I skipped the jam session on Thursday, was just too tired to go out. I slept like a baby last night, was good for me. Phil and I are continuing to talk to each other quite a bit and things are progressing. He called tonight and we visited on the phone some. He�ll give me a call Sunday to let me know if he is going to Wayfarer�s. We are going to go hike on Wednesday. I�m going to drag myself out tomorrow morning to see if I am still capable of hiking. It�s been a while. Thursday evening I went out and bought some new tennishoes, as I�ve been thinking about hiking now for a couple days. Really need to get out and exercise more. So much on my mind, and yet� nothing is spilling out. I�m actually doing really well, just not getting enough sleep. Terribly restless, sometimes I just go out and drive around for hours. Some times I go and visit people; sometimes it�s to the jam sessions, it�s just out. There seems to be a drive to just get out of the house. I know that Grandma and Lois dying this spring have really impacted me in ways I never expected. I can hardly stand to just do nothing, and very much feel the need to be out experiencing the world. Phil has been good for me. I�ve gone outside of my comfort zone so much with him. I doing things and going places that I am really enjoying. I never dreamed I�d enjoy bars as much as I do. Which I am sure is just amazing coming out of the mouth of a non-drinker. I am not tempted to drink at all, but I love the people watching, and I enjoy the music so much. I�ve been so brave. I�ve walked into so many places I never could have gone two years ago. It really feels good. It feels like I am running my own life for ME, probably for the first time in my life. I have lived so much of my life for other people. Looking to fulfill their expectations, or what I assumed were their expectations. I took on responsibility so early in my life, that I can hardly remember a moment when I didn�t feel responsible. I had a hard time asking for things when I was growing up, it worried me that there wouldn�t be enough to go around if I got what I wanted. I could hardly bare to have my parents buy me stuff. Is that crazy or what? I remember at about 16 my mother bought me a coat. I really liked it, but it was $50, and I could hardly stand to let her buy it. She had to convince me. Why I worried about whether or not there would be enough to go around I don�t know. It wasn�t like my parents ever said ANYTHING about money, I don�t even recall them hinting at things costing too much. I paid for my own college, worried that if they paid for me to go to school, that maybe there wouldn�t be enough for my sisters to go to school. WHY?!? I spent an entire marriage taking on all the responsibility of everything� everything from raising the kids, taking care of the house, yard and cars, to finances, to finally a full time job to provide medical coverage for my boys and a constant income I could count on. THEN I got divorced and it was REALLY all my responsibility. I�ve spent so much of my life worried about what people will think of me. After forty-five years I am just plain tired. I am doing a hell of a lot more of what I WANT to do and it feels really good. Will I make mistakes? Most likely, but I feel really strong in myself. I don�t feel desperate or crazy, I just feel� strong. I�ve been afraid of so much for so long, and I don�t feel afraid right now. I don�t know the road, I�m not even sure where I am going, but I know I can face whatever comes along, and I am not going to fall off the edge of the world. I am going to be okay no matter what flies up off the road. It feels great!! Thank you, Phil, somehow from somewhere you inspired this strength in me, somehow helped me to find it myself, and you don�t even know that�s what you�ve done. Heck, I�m not even sure exactly what he did. Somehow it is just my reaction to him. It�s good. No matter what happens down the road, I learned this about myself; it�s made a difference in me. I�m gonna sleep good tonight. Sweet dreams. M. |